Signs of a person who always plays the role of victim
We have all played the victim before. How many of us have ever blamed our younger brother or sister for breaking a mirror?
I have done this myself. How many of us have ever blamed a colleague for things going wrong? But playing the victim is like eating bad food, it only makes you worse in the long run.
In this article, I’m going to talk about the signs that a person is playing the victim role, and I’m going to talk about how they should react instead.
1- They do not accept responsibility
Even if a victim accepts that he was involved in a mistake, it is difficult for him to accept responsibility.
Instead, they point the finger of blame at others or simply deny their role in what went wrong.
2- They are frozen in life
Victims think they are always at the mercy of everyone and everything around them. Usually, victims do not progress in their lives because they constantly feel that they cannot. As a result, their life remains stagnant.
3- They hold grudges
Victims like to cling to old grievances. They use this tool like a weapon and use it on anyone who tries to hold the receivers accountable. The victim uses old memories and occasions in which he was really hurt
4- They have a problem with being decisive
Victims don’t believe they can truly control their lives, so they get into trouble by emphasizing what they need, want, and deserve.
5- They feel powerless
Usually, the victim is someone who is suspicious of others, feels insecure and constantly seeks to know the latest gossip.
6- They do not trust others
This problem is not only a lack of trust in others. They believe that they themselves are not trustworthy. So the victim assumes that others are like themselves, untrustworthy.
7- They don’t know when to say enough is enough
In relationships, victims have no sense of limitations. They don’t know when to say enough is enough.
8- They easily get into arguments
Victims have trouble picking their battles. For them, every battle is a war. They think they are always under attack.
9- They feel sorry for themselves
People who see themselves as victims have a habit of feeling sorry for themselves. Their behavior is a reflection of a child who cannot defend himself. Since others usually do not sympathize with these people, they try to do it for themselves.
11- They always see life as lacking
12- They are critics
The victim needs to put others down and find fault with them. By doing this, they get a fleeting sense of superiority.
13- They think they are perfect
When a victim’s mistake is exposed, he suddenly becomes a whole person. This pride and narcissism causes the victim to be deprived of having truly honest relationships and collaborations.
14- People are completely removed from their lives
It’s enough, it’s better not to be in my life!
If you have heard this sentence before when there was no serious problem, know that you have faced a victim. The victim uses this sentence in any relationship or work that has the slightest problem or challenge.
Finally, if the victim does not change his behavior, he will witness painful consequences in his life and relationships.
There are always alternative ways to deal with problems, don’t make quick decisions, be responsible and stop being selfish, you are not a victim.
This post is written by Sara_b_h