Psychology and counseling
Measures to deal with the irresponsibility of the spouse
Do not retaliate
If you have broken up with your spouse, first try to reconcile with him and resume your relationship; Because it is not possible to do the following solutions without the presence of your wife. Some people respond to their wife’s stubbornness with stubbornness. Know that a person who is stubborn usually knows that he is not right, but he never wants to say it.
Invite your family to stop the sponsorship process:
Unfortunately, a group of people are always the first volunteers to solve any problem and take the opportunity to cooperate and play a role from their spouse; Because they believe that when they are involved with an unreliable person, they have to play the role of a parent for him.
This makes all the responsibility of the joint life to be handed over to the volunteer, and the other party naturally becomes irresponsible.
Sometimes this role is taken by the wife and sometimes by the parents
Insistently ask him to fulfill his duties:
Do not forget that in order to strengthen the character of responsibility in each person, you should choose small and accessible goals. For example, if the irresponsible person is your husband and his irresponsibility is more in earning money and providing for the material needs of the family, you should ask him for cheap but necessary purchases in the first step.
Be patient and just insist on your request respectfully and without aggression. Maybe 100% of your request will not be met, but you can be sure that 50% of it will be answered, and this means initial success against the irresponsible person.
Acquaint your spouse with the consequences of irresponsibility:
Using expressions like you are not responsible at all will not solve any of your problems, but the repeated use of these expressions will make your wife fall into this role more and really accept that she is irresponsible.
In many cases and in the beginning, your spouse will certainly not spend as much as you (for example) expected to buy. For example, you have given him a list of 5 essential household needs, but he has bought some items among these 5 needs and has not bought, for example, rice. Here you eliminate rice from your meal and cook a simple meal. When he asks: Why haven’t you cooked rice?, you just answer: We ran out of rice.
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