How to talk with an aggressive and nervous child?
The first part
As parents, by controlling our own emotions against our outbursts of anger, we can lay the foundation for our children to learn this important skill. This time when you’re faced with your toddler’s tantrums and excuses, or your teenager’s shrug, take the best step forward by using one of the following phrases:
Don’t say: don’t throw everything so much!
Say: When you throw away your toys, I think you don’t like to play with them. is it so This is a speaker/listener technique to help communicate feelings in a non-face-to-face manner. This method not only keeps the lines of conversation open, but you become a role model to show how the situation is from your point of view, as a result, your child gets the opportunity to re-evaluate the incident from his own point of view. Review from another angle.
Do not say: good children do not do this!
Say: Good children and even adults sometimes get angry, it’s okay, this anger will pass. Let’s be honest. As your children get older, they will face bigger problems and have stronger emotions. It is really a lie to tell them that good kids or grown ups don’t get angry, bored or anxious. It also causes children to repress their emotions and prevent their emotions from flowing in a healthy way.
Don’t say: Don’t get angry!
Say: I get angry sometimes too. Let’s shout our battle cry to curb our anger. A new research shows that when our body is injured and we are in pain, screaming can actually disrupt the transmission of the pain message to the brain, which means that our pain will be reduced. Your child may not be in pain when angry, but yelling can release angry energy in a playful way. Choose a battle slogan with your child to use it loudly in such a situation, for example: Azaaaaadi!
Don’t say: You don’t dare to hit!
Say: It’s okay to be angry, but I won’t let you hurt anyone. We must keep each other safe. This phrase conveys a serious message that it is okay to be angry, but physical reaction is prohibited. Separating the two will help your child learn to behave the same way.
Don’t say: You are too stubborn and stubborn!
Say: This is a very difficult and unpleasant topic, I know; We will solve it together. When children are stubborn and do not give up, it is very easy to understand why. This phrase reinforces the idea that you are with him, not against him, and that you are moving towards the same goal.
Don’t say: I understand, you should be alone in your room!
Say: Let’s be apart so we can both calm down. This phrase turns being alone into being together and allows for a new connection instead of being alone.
Don’t say: Brush your teeth right now!
Say: Do you want us to brush your doll’s teeth or yours first? For toddlers, tantrums and excuses are a way to control their environment. With this statement, you give him the right to choose, and as a result, he feels somewhat in control.
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This post is written by yaamamhasan