don’t get married
1) If you do not take responsibility for work in your father’s family and in your single life, or you are short.
2) If you do not have a constructive and satisfying relationship with your father, mother, brother and sister (whom you think are unreasonable or do not have the morals you want) and you have not been able to create an acceptable interaction. (Lack of correct social interaction and communication with others)
3) If in life, you have constantly changed your job, you have cut off relations with many friends due to problems, you have changed your field of study or dropped out of school, you have left your interests half-finished and you do not have mental, emotional and behavioral stability.
4) If you imagine, you will change your wife’s thoughts, feelings and behavior in the future as you wish. (cognitive error)
5) If you are looking for a suitable wife so that you don’t face any problems in your life together in the future. (cognitive error)
6) If in pursuit of your own pleasure and interests, your tasks and responsibilities are placed on the shoulders of others.
7) If you only accept your own logic and attitude and become defensive or aggressive in front of others and are unable to understand the thoughts, feelings and behavior of others. (defensive reaction and introspection)
8) If you don’t see your strengths and weaknesses clearly. (lack of self-awareness)
9) If there has been no change in your behavior with the opinions, criticisms and suggestions of others.
10) If your work issues prevent your friendly communication and the communication of your friends, it prevents intimate communication in your paternal family, or your personal issues and problems affect all areas of your life and become intertwined.
11) If you are completely unable to change your pre-designed plans (even if the circumstances change) and you are very bigoted, dry and inflexible. (lack of necessary flexibility)
12) If you are not able to understand the feelings, behavior and thoughts of your family, friends and colleagues who act differently from you. (lack of social awareness)
13) If you talk more than you listen and you try to make others understand you more than you try to understand others. (lack of relationship management)
14) If you are very emotional and only emotions pull you to one side and you are not able to postpone your desires
15) If you don’t have a method and plan for your behavior, feelings and speech and you regularly react to others.
16) If you have a habit of running away or avoiding problems instead of solving them, or your reaction to problems is indifference. (avoidant response to events)
17) If in the mirror of others, you look like a grumbling, blaming, dependent, emotional, pessimistic, aloof, self-aggressive, sad person. (personality disorder)
18) If you think that out of the billions of people on earth, only one person is suitable for you and is worth marrying, otherwise your life will be meaningless and you will have to die and remain single for the rest of your life.
19) If you are looking for a suitable spouse without evaluating and knowing yourself exactly. (not knowing oneself)
20) If your current situation is not satisfactory and you get married to escape the situation. (problem in problem solving method)
This post is written by Sara_b_h