The scientific reason for men’s open friendships
The findings of German researchers show that spending time with male friends is beneficial for men’s health. This is not news that the wife of a fun-loving man wants to hear: scientists have proven that men need a night out with their friends.
One of the causes of common arguments between spouses is the same complaint about spending time with friends and the so-called “friendship” of men. Many women expect their husbands to spend more of their free time with their families and stay away from their single friends.
This demand, which in many cases is the expectation of the right and instead of a wife who is worried about the family center, can cause misunderstanding and opacity.
Sometimes men’s interest in hanging out with their friends is attributed to their irresponsibility and unrestrainedness. This kind of look may lead to doubt, anxiety and pessimism and make men face charges of infidelity and betrayal. Many men may also be unaware of the reason for their desire to hang out with friends of the same sex and possibly single, or blame themselves for such a desire.
According to a new study, men are more likely to reduce stress when they hang out with the same sex than when they go out with the opposite sex or spend time with family. According to this research, which will probably be cited as an excuse by many men, being in a group makes the effects of anxiety less annoying for men.
Scientists from the University of Gottingen, Germany, by studying a type of monkey called Barbary macaque, whose social behaviors are very similar to humans, found that the level of male stress hormone in male monkeys increases rapidly when they socialize with their partners or other family members. But these same monkeys were much calmer among a group of other males.
The researchers also discovered that stress-related illnesses were only common among female monkeys or couples.
This research, which was published in the journal PNAS, also paid attention to how males take care of each other. Among humans, this care is seen in the form of “holding each other’s air” and behaviors called “conscience and knowledge”, and in monkeys in the form of separating insects and cockroaches from each other’s body hair.
According to Christopher Young of the primate social evolution group at the same university, if male primates live in groups with several other males, there is usually intense conflict between them over access to females, but the males of the group can be friendly with several other male cohorts. establish Male monkeys establish social friendships similar to humans, which reduces the stresses of daily life in them. It seems that knowing this simple scientific point can improve women’s understanding of their husbands’ behavior, as well as men’s awareness of their emotional needs.
Men can occasionally forget about family duties for a few hours by socializing with friends and colleagues and improve their quality of life by reducing stress levels. Of course, gaining the trust of the respectable spouse is an important prerequisite for such a thing.
This post is written by Sara_b_h