Anger control
Years ago, one of the senior managers of an oil company made a wrong decision, and because of this, over two million dollars of damage was caused to that company. John D. Rockefeller was the CEO of the company at the time.
On the day when the news of the loss spread in the company, most of the company’s managers tried to avoid the CEO with various excuses so as not to incur his wrath.
The only person who dared to meet Broad’s CEO that day was a man named Edward T. Bedford. He was a partner in the firm and knew well that he had to prepare himself to hear a long speech against the manager who had made a mistake.
When Bedford entered Rockefeller’s office, the head of the oil giant was hunched over his desk, writing on a hard piece of paper. Bedford stood quietly without disturbing his work.
After a few minutes, Rockefeller raised his head and said softly: Oh Bedford you; I think you have heard about the damage done to the company.
Bedford immediately confirmed the damage.
Rockefeller said: I have been thinking about the issue for a few days and before we asked the relevant manager for an inquiry, I was writing down important things.
Bedford later described it as follows: On top of the paper were written the strengths of Mr. . .
Then he wrote down a long list of the manager’s virtues, including a brief biography of his contributions to the company, the right decisions on various occasions, decisions that amounted to more than the recent losses the company had incurred.
Bedford says I will never forget this lesson; In the following years, whenever I wanted to deal with and punish someone, first of all, I forced myself to sit at a table and carefully prepare a long list of the person’s strengths, and only after preparing such a list, I realized that I was able to solve the problem from I examined its real dimension and this made me stay away from the most costly mistakes that any manager can make, which is nothing but anger and rage; I recommend this method to anyone who deals with people.
If you have an argument or even a fight with your friend, colleague, or spouse, please think about the positive qualities and good things he has done for you before remembering the negative qualities and leaving the person completely aside.
A person makes mistakes, but if you put his whole behavior and actions on the scale, the positive part may weigh.
This post is written by mkarimia46