Avoiding arguments – how to handle disputes and differences
One of the most difficult issues in marital relations is how to deal with disputes and differences. Often, when a husband and wife have a disagreement, their conversation leads to arguments and then without introduction to a fight.
Suddenly their loving conversation ends and they start to upset and annoy each other by themselves. They blame each other and complain to each other. Accusing, expecting, getting angry and doubting are other actions that husband and wife commit to upset each other.
Husband and wife who argue with each other not only hurt each other’s feelings but also their relationship. Just as communication is the most important element in any relationship, arguments can also be considered the most destructive element in this field. Because the closer we get to a person, the easier it is to hurt or be offended.
When husband and wife do not have sexual relations, they look more impartially at the time of arguments and arguments, but when they establish emotional and especially sexual relations with each other, they take each other’s behavior to heart.
As a general guideline: “Never argue with each other. Instead, you can express positive and negative opinions.
Talk about your wishes and avoid arguments. It is possible to be honest with each other and even express your unpleasant feelings without arguing.
Some husbands and wives constantly fight and argue with each other and gradually the love between them fades away. On a broader level, some husbands and wives suppress their honest and pure feelings in order to avoid arguments. As a result of suppressing these feelings, they also stop losing their romantic feelings. One couple is at war with the other and the other couple is in a cold war mode.
The best thing is for the husband and wife to create a balance between these two situations (that is, not to argue and not to suppress their unpleasant feelings.) by remembering that men and women are from two different planets and Also, with the development of communication skills, it is possible to avoid arguments without suppressing negative feelings and opposing each other’s opinions and wishes.
Martian men, Venusian women (a guide to improving relationships and satisfying marital needs)
: Dr. John Gray
This post is written by Sara_b_h