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Why should you not be a mother to your wife?
Mr. Jafari (consultant and instructor at Baharenko Center)
One of the issues that some women (especially Kadbanu women) are dealing with is the issue of motherhood for her husband. In this way, the lady feels that her husband still needs to be taken care of like children, and she indulges in taking care of him so much that her wife reaches the border of hatred and rebels against her! He may even think of finding a new love!
Although motherhood is a relatively normal issue for women, you should know that one of the biggest mistakes a woman can make is motherhood for her husband! To constantly think about making him dry, remind him to do this, don’t do that! Or he keeps complaining that, for example, why didn’t you put your socks in the laundry basket? Or how many times should I say when you come home, first wash your feet, then come to you! Or even in order to show others how clumsy his wife is, he will give examples of his wife’s clumsiness, saying, “My husband doesn’t even know how to make a half-face!” Don’t touch black and white enough
When a woman becomes a mother for her husband, she unintentionally reminds him of her childhood and teenage memories! Those drying, sticking and motherly advice! And this is not consistent with the independence-loving personality of the gentleman, and he may feel that his authority has been questioned. Therefore, he gradually gets tired of this young mother and distances himself from her. It is here that Mrs. Dadesh asks why I have no salt in my hand despite all this work and effort and so on.
Now, to prevent such incidents, we will review some solutions together;
Solution number 1: Let your wife do her personal work on her own; Things like taking a bite for breakfast, finding a switch, washing socks and so on. And you don’t have to supervise!
Solution number 2: If your wife does something, don’t criticize her and be sure to strengthen her with appreciation and praise.
Solution number 3: Leave physical work that requires a lot of physical strength (like opening the door of the pickle jar or moving heavy household items, etc.) to your wife, and then finish the work by saying sentences like; “Thank you, God, you were so kind, otherwise my strength would not have reached this glass!” or “How strong you are!” Celebrate your wife and revive the sense of authority in her.
Solution number 4: Sometimes, using your feminine charms, behave as if you need care and companionship and ask your wife to support and protect you.
Solution number 5: Divide household chores based on gender abilities and if your wife avoids or does not do her duties, make her responsible for her duties and encourage her to do her job!
Solution number 6: Never talk to your wife in a commanding tone! Remember, even if you are the most beautiful woman in the world, when you point your index finger and talk to your wife in a harsh tone, your attractiveness in the eyes of your wife will decrease drastically and you will look like a controlling mother!
Solution number 7 Always be well-groomed, stylish and fragrant and achieve your health; Your wife needs a kind and attractive companion and sweetheart, not a chef who always smells like vegetable soup!
Solution No. 8 Every once in a while in sincere two-person conversations, get feedback from your spouse and, if possible, give effect to your spouse’s wishes!
This post is written by Sara_b_h