sexual divorce
Sexual divorce is a factor for couples facing emotional and formal divorce
Sexual divorce means a coldness in the marital relationship of husband and wife due to their sexual incompatibility. In the long run, this inconsistency can make the foundation of the family face problems, the most important of which is legal divorce.
Behnam Ohadi; Psychiatrist and sexologist in a conversation with Mehrkhaneh reporter said: Psychologists and experts in the family field have been paying special attention to emotional divorce for some time, but another important issue that is important in the family field is sexual divorce.
Referring to the definition of sexual divorce, he said: In sexual divorce, men and women are on the same page emotionally, but they are not the same language. In this case, both parties are often to blame; Either men can’t carry on the process of a sexual relationship or women can’t adapt to this relationship.
Ohadi added: We must note that in sexual relations, people either have high or low sexual desire. Therefore, people who marry someone who is different from them in terms of sex, will have problems in sex and, of course, living together.
This sexologist stated that the method and form of sexual intercourse preferred by both parties; Even foreplay in a relationship or foreplay can affect the process of sexual relationship and divorce, he clarified: good and appropriate sex is the engine of a married life; If this relationship is not successful, it creates discouragement, annoyance and distance; Therefore, sexual divorce turns into emotional divorce in the long term, and emotional divorce turns into formal and legal divorce in the long term.
Not paying attention to sexual desire and needs in premarital counseling is problematic
Referring to pre-marriage counseling, Ohadi said: It is necessary to pay attention to the sexual compatibility of the husband and wife in marriage counseling, but we must be careful that sexual hotness or coldness is currently not measured in marriage counseling or is not considered at all. And this is because, first of all, counselors rarely deal with the physiology of the body, and secondly, they do not take a correct history of a person’s sexual dreams from puberty until now, and they do not pay attention to his sexual fantasies.
He mentioned the amount of change in people’s sexual desire during counseling sessions and said: Another issue is that with sex therapy and trying to restore sex, only 15% of people’s sexual desire can be changed; That is, a woman or a man who has a sexual temperament can only increase sexual desire up to 15% and vice versa.
Ohadi listed the ways to reduce sexual divorce and said: the most important way is the performance of pre-marital counseling; Since marriage counselors are often psychologists, it seems that it is necessary to include psychologists’ opinions in premarital counseling; In particular, help should be sought from sexual partner counseling and listening to the consequences of marriage for heterosexual couples, which requires taking a detailed history of people about their sexual fantasies and imaginations.
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