Engagement period alarm bells
In addition to the signs that may indicate that the personality of the candidate is not healthy, there are comprehensive and key signs that can be easily seen and discovered during the engagement. When you see these signs in your fiance’s behavior, be sure to examine them more closely or talk to a family counselor about continuing the relationship with your fiance.
dependence on family;
Those who are well independent of their father’s family can start a common life and succeed in it. This independence exists in all areas. First, in the material sphere, that is, financial independence from the family, which is especially important for the boy. Second, is emotional independence. If our partner is very dependent on his family, or vice versa, his family is dependent on him, it will be very difficult to form a new family with him. Another important area of independence is intellectual independence. How independent is your partner in his or her thoughts and not influenced by his or her family? If the other person regularly says “as my mother says,” “as my father says,” or “as my mother says.” It means that he does not have intellectual independence of himself. Someone who is still at this stage of growth is not ready for marriage.
Failure to fulfill courtship obligations;
One of the tools you can use to measure the good promise of your partner is the consistency of his behavior during the engagement with the promises he made during the courtship. We can recognize people’s personalities by their behavior. Of course, remember that your partner may have made commitments in other circumstances during the proposal and now the circumstances have changed. In these cases, other behaviors show whether our candidate is good-natured or not.
The lies of the courtship;
It is one thing to promise and another to talk about facts. Sometimes during the engagement period, it turns out that the words of the courtship period were lies. For example, the groom said that he does not like smoke and now it turns out that he is an opium smoker, or he said that he works for so-and-so company and now it turns out that he is unemployed. The lies of the courtship period are really an alarm bell and continuing with such a person can have serious consequences.
Ignoring the promises of the engagement period;
During the engagement period, the two sides make many promises to each other. How faithful each party is to his promises shows to some extent how committed he is to life and what he says in the future. Of course, you have to take into account the circumstances and not question all the previous good ones because of one bad promise.
not caring about appointment times;
If you can’t live with a disorderly person or someone who doesn’t show up on time, take your fiancé’s frequent delays seriously.
This post is written by Sara_b_h