The correct way to deal with swearing by a child
1- The child should be taught the correct way to communicate with others; The child must learn how and in what form to express his negative feelings; without violating etiquette and morals; For example, he should be taught: “My child, if you are upset with someone, instead of cursing, tell him: “I am upset with you.”
2- Neglecting: It means deliberately neglecting oneself; That is, when children curse or have verbal aggression, we should not react and neglect ourselves; But let’s act in such a way that the child realizes that we noticed that disrespect and upset; For example, without saying anything to the child, just look at him and then do something else.
3- Do not show a strong emotional reaction (such as yelling, screaming, scaring the child with bad terms); Because this work can cause stubbornness and strengthen the child’s work and humiliate him.
4- Showing your dissatisfaction with the child: If we see that ignoring does not work, we use this method. For example, let’s say to the child, “I am really upset by what you said” and show the upset on the face.
5- Raising the value of the child: giving personality to the child, for example, say “Reza, you are a literary boy and I don’t expect these words from you.”
6- Depriving naughty children: We should deprive a naughty child of something he likes like watching a cartoon in a limited and balanced way because of his wrong doing.
7- With the right methods, let’s help the child to express himself in a desirable way and show himself and be noticed; For example, let’s set aside 15 to 20 minutes for the child during the day, listen to his talk, talk face to face with the child and don’t engage in other work while talking to him. This work increases the child’s self-confidence and self-esteem and satisfies his desire to express himself properly.
8- Keep negative and pessimistic thoughts away from the child; Because these thoughts can be a factor for obscenity.
9- Record the sound and image of the child when he swears, and then play it for him and show him how bad he gets when he gets angry, so that he doesn’t do it again.
10- Remember that a child who is restless needs to be helped to find peace. Not that our aggressive behavior will add to his unrest. When the child is restless, we should maintain our calmness and not add to his restlessness.
11- Teach children to apologize; Apologize when we ourselves do something wrong so that the child also learns to apologize at the wrong time. When parents resist and justify their mistakes and are not ready to apologize, they teach their children that they should do the same.
This post is written by Sara_b_h