The period before marriage and engagement
Pre-marriage acquaintances and friendships that take place, since they start with the involvement of emotion and emotion and passion and emotion take the first place, unfortunately, it defeats reason.
Feelings and excitement create a flame in the existence of young boys and girls, which is very powerful, and the more time they spend together, the more burning and powerful this flame becomes.
Unfortunately, the result of this excitement is the progress of the relationship to deeper levels. With the superficial thoughts that we are together, why shouldn’t we enjoy each other, they go to deeper relationships of being together and treat each other like husband and wife.
In the progress of the relationship, little by little reason shows itself and logic and reasoning come into play. In other words, the eyes open from one side or both sides.
The result of this incident is a reconsideration of the formation of the relationship and seeing the weak points and becoming sensitive to issues that were not seen before and were not important, and sometimes excuses and complaints that had no effect before.
Now the literature is different, it is about lying, deception and charm to reach the relationship. they condemn and there is no news of numerous long phone calls, let it be said; why are you calling They present to each other and the romantic text messages end in nothing or brief and complaining texts.
At this time, something happened, a girl lost her dignity and great wealth. The wealth that was his dignity, credit, honor and everything, and now he easily hears that; Well, our morals don’t match, we don’t get along, I didn’t know your family was like that, our marriage ended in divorce, now I can’t manage my finances and
Many times I have seen these young girls shed tears and the young boy easily says, “Well, it didn’t work anymore, and you wanted to force it.”
Here, as a consulting psychologist, I request you, young men and women, to protect yourself, both during friendship and acquaintance for marriage, and during engagement and before official marriage. Be together, but be away from hurt and regret. This cannot be achieved unless you are your own protector and give your rationality a chance to emerge before you feel it.
It continues about marriage and matrimony.
This post is written by Sara_b_h