We have no compliments
We usually remember well the things that our spouse has denied us, but have we ever thought about what our spouse has given us that we are not grateful for?
You might say it was her duty, you might say, “She is my wife and it is her duty to clean the house.”
“It’s my husband and it’s his duty to pay for the house” or “It’s my birthday and it’s his duty to buy me a gift.”
Even if everything you say is true, which of course it isn’t, gratitude will improve your relationship with your spouse, improve your mental health, and completely change your outlook on social life.
Benefits of thanking your spouse:
Reduces anger and jealousy
Both anger and jealousy stem from frustration. Anger is formed because we have faced an obstacle to reach our goal, and jealousy is because we wanted to be in someone else’s place, but we are not now. But gratitude means satisfaction with at least the positive aspects of the current situation. That is, exactly the opposite of feelings that fuel anger and jealousy.
Reduces depression
Gratitude reduces depression. Do you know why? Honestly, depression comes from a very deep but very hidden kind of selfishness. As long as we are in the position of absolute receiver and expect everything, including love, to be offered to us with open arms, it is clear that we will be depressed. Because by nature, the world is not the kind of place where mufti mufti can lead you to something without interaction. Grateful people don’t get depressed because this sense of gratitude counteracts that hidden sense of selfishness.
Increases life satisfaction
More grateful people are happier people. They enjoy their own lives more and see and understand the virtues of their spouses more. This satisfaction with his own life is nothing less. In a way, satisfaction with life itself is happiness.
It makes the relationship with your spouse positive
People communicate with you more when they know that you always remember their good deeds in addition to counting their bad deeds. Now whether this person is your father, your mother, your wife, your employer, your university professor, your colleague or your friend, he likes a grateful person more. That’s why psychologists say that gratitude makes our relationships with others positive, especially when this person is your spouse, that is, the person you want to live with for the rest of your life. At all, a large part of life satisfaction comes from this positive relationship.
This post is written by Sara_b_h