Why are we not satisfied with our marriage?
The answer to this question goes back to fifty thousand years ago, when the princess of our story used bear skin instead of clothes to cover her body.
One day when this newly matured princess went to pick some forest apples, she noticed a leopard that was going to attack her.
The princess screamed so thunderously that the eardrum of the prince of the story, who happened to be hunting a deer nearby, was about to burst! The prince of the story, who was very angry, went to kill the cause of this noise and get rid of him, when he encountered a very dangerous and predatory leopard. The angry prince did not hesitate and killed the leopard with an arrow and kicked him in the side to get rid of his anger.
Meanwhile, he saw the princess looking at him with eyes full of admiration and gratitude.
The prince, who was full of pride and excitement, went to the princess and threw her on his shoulder and went to the cave. Then the scene became checkered and the film was censored by the loved ones involved in the work…
The result of a mysterious event that happened many times in this cave was a few little boys and girls whose image of marriage was engraved in their minds as a woman being saved by a man and supported by him.
For many centuries, this image was a guide for young people. A man came and saved a woman from the clutches of a leopard. Then he would take him to the cave and the scene would be checkered.
Well, I must say that at that time everyone was satisfied with this situation…soon, many poems and stories were written about saving a woman from a tiger, which was called masculinity, and the oppression and appreciation of a woman, which was called femininity.
All the men and women had believed that there was no other way to reach the cave and perform that pleasant chess scene. The man must be stronger than the woman and the woman must rely on him.
But over time, the leopards changed their shape. They came in the form of financial problems and intellectual and spiritual and even philosophical problems. Soon, women also learned how to deal with these leopards. Sometimes they even coped with financial and intellectual issues better than men. They could support their lives alone. They became financially and intellectually independent, but the image still remained.
Women still needed a man to save them from the tiger to go to the cave.
But when the man came to save them, they started commenting: Isn’t it better to shoot the leopard with that one? Wait, I have an anesthetic shot myself!
This is how the men felt frustrated. They could no longer save the woman. The woman no longer looked at them with eyes full of admiration and gratitude. He even seemed to consider himself an expert in hunting leopards, and it seems that he even outperformed them in some cases.
Both men and women became sad and depressed. Sometimes, according to their instinct, they went to the cave to… disturbing thoughts invaded their minds. The man said to himself: This woman does not consider me her savior. He doesn’t accept me and gets angry. Sometimes, instead of doing pleasurable things, in order to prove his strength and worthiness to the woman, he shouted at her and criticized all her efforts in fighting the leopard. The woman said to herself that this man does not deserve to save me at all. I know how to save myself better than him. I have to look for a stronger man who is more capable and when he couldn’t find it, he would be disappointed and sad. But none of the men and women knew that it was time to change their mental image.
Anna Arian
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